It takes a lot to be a lady and being a woman does not magically make one a lady. To be a proper lady revolves around many different things. Your common manners, your dress sense, attitudes and social behaviour are all inculcated into what makes women ladies.
The way our grandmothers defined a lady is different from how we do now. Although most things have not changed.
The sudden transformation in the modern woman is disappointing to those with strong desire to uphold the old definition of lady. Likewise it is satisfying to the modern woman, because most ladies then and now could not contend with the ways our grandmother’s definition of being a lady was. While some women do not care at all. they just do their thing.
Despite changes and evolution, some women have given big consideration on how to exactly handle the situation and create a balance. That is bringing the old and new together to birth dynamic ladies. Many modern woman are constantly going through career elevation and active personal lives. These changes in personal and professional growth demand a lot from them. We are constantly exposed to people, and we need to know the right ways and manners to relate with them, especially means how to win their heart. We need to step back and evaluate the situation and make adjustments.
Pantyhose, white gloves, and length clothes, being shy and innocent are not in Vogue now. Although some ladies may still have it or reinvented it .
Some modern ladies do not need men to complete her or attend functions with her. She is a boss lady. She can attend events and functions all by herself. No male escort.
Modern ladies place more priorities to education and self empowerment. She knows that educating herself in everywhere possible is the ultimate goal.
Back then most ladies goal was to look nice and land a successful man and have free access to the high society functions. Do not get me wrong, that Is a cute life and some ladies still dream of that. Although during our grandmothers time some ladies were not conformed to the definition of a lady then. They wanted more than the life of having a lady in waiting. They are the pioneers of today modern ladies.
Today ladies have taken the definition of being a lady to nice standards. The standard involved high level of education, common sense manners, to empowerment of herself and other women around her, to having a poise, a voice and accumulation of achievements.
The modern ladies strive to rise beyond the dress she wears, it size and how she wears it. Back then money and appearance was the ultimate standard for a satisfactory life. But modern lady know that life is beyond that. Maya Angelou put it that “our legacy is not the monuments we build or the money we make, our legacy is live we touch”. Do not get me wrong, our grandmothers were the real fashion slayer and poineers of humanitarians works. The modern women fuel it up.
The is a thin line between a woman and a lady. A lady hold herself in high esteem, she has courtesies, her words carry weights and she is selfish with it. She know when to talk and when to refrain from it. She know what to say at the right time and how to say it.
She is sincere with her words. A modern lady say it like it is. No time for flattering and fake compliments. If you do not have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all. Is her quote
A lady is thoughtful. She is sensitive to others feelings. Her principle, strong values and drives makes her the sweetheart of many. A modern lady is not timid nor rude. She balance everything and nobody get hurt. She is not a snobbish or too simply to be a riding tools.
The modern definition of a lady now is a different ball game from what our grandmothers crafted it to be. The two definition are quite acceptable but things can not remain the same because change is a constant thing in life.
Being seen and refer to as a lady is one of the highest and satisfying accomplishment and compliments a woman can receive.
More post on how to be a modern lady coming soon.